Wired to Dismantle 2

Unmasking the Illusions of Love and Control

Life is a seamless, automatic stream, playing out through biological rhythms that require no conscious intervention. Breathing, walking, blinking.. even the sensations we label as thought and emotion.. are reflexive responses, rooted in complex, autonomic bodily processes.

Within this framework, the concept of an "independent self" is an illusion, a narrative stitched together by the brain in an attempt to bring coherence to its own relentless functioning. This self, feeling central and in command, is nothing but a ghost inside an intricate, predetermined machine.

The Illusion of Control

The comforting belief in personal agency.. our deeply ingrained sense of control over decisions and outcomes.. is, in essence, a sedative. It draws us into thinking we’re guiding the ship of life, steering relationships, ambitions, and even love.

But every decision we believe we consciously make, every choice we think originates within us, is nothing more than a conditioned response to a world of endless stimuli. Our neurobiological makeup, past conditioning, and circumstantial triggers predetermine everything, leaving “autonomy” as nothing more than a story we tell ourselves to mask the endless monotony of cause and effect.

In interactions, we craft images of people, including ourselves. These constructs are fluid, reactive, flickering from one form to the next, while our emotional responses.. love, frustration, anger.. oscillate just as fluidly. Every "I love you" is as habitual as a sneeze. Rather than words that embody any deep emotional truth, these expressions are ritualistic, reflexive utterances conditioned by societal expectations. By repeating them, we drain them of impact, rendering them weightless.

Navigating human relationships requires recognizing that we are mere participants in a vast image-making apparatus. We do not control the formation or nature of these images but enact them as responses within a web of automatic patterns and environmental triggers.

Automating Relationships

Through this lens, it becomes clear that "love" often reflects not the actual person before us but an idealized image we project onto them. We aren’t relating to the person; we’re relating to a fleeting, transient reflection.. a shadow that disappears as soon as we turn away. The emotional roller-coasters we link to love are fleeting, just like the fluid identities we attribute to people.

This isn’t to diminish the power of these experiences but to ground them in reality. Emotions and attachments may feel potent, yet they are transient, reactive responses shaped by our biology and surroundings. Recognizing this transience doesn’t negate their existence; it frees us from the trap of imbuing them with perpetual meaning.

Expressions of love, in particular, are diluted by this paradox. Uttering "I love you" over and over drains the phrase of authenticity. True love, if it exists at all, is reflected not in words but in the acts of kindness, protection, and understanding.. demonstrations that go beyond the hollow repetition of rehearsed sentiments.

Rejecting Spirituality: A Critique of Universal Love

The concept of "unconditional love" enjoys a cult-like reverence in spiritual circles, yet it’s a fundamentally flawed ideal. Love is conditioned.. bound to circumstances and shaped by context. It fluctuates with the images we project onto people and situations. Spiritual claims of “universal love” deny the dual nature of relationships, brushing aside the inherent boundaries between individuals and replacing them with an empty abstraction.

In reality, love isn’t located in some mystical plane or “higher” dimension; it’s a byproduct of automatic processes driven by evolutionary and survival mechanisms.

There is no metaphysical truth to love!

It is a transient response to stimuli, a temporary resonance. Seeing this for what it is shatters the pedestal we’ve placed love on, stripping it of all supposed universal significance.

Embracing the Illusions

Viewing life as a series of automatic responses doesn’t mean rejecting it as meaningless. Instead, it urges us to embrace these illusions for exactly what they are.

Understanding that love, connection, and agency are, at their core, mirages created by automatic processes can be liberating. It allows us to live without the endless weight of existential questioning or the ceaseless search for meaning.

This acceptance redefines relationships, stripping away the need to force every interaction into an idealized framework. We can simply observe, connect, and respond without assigning every moment a deeper purpose or scrambling for significance.

Conclusion

"Wired to Dismantle" is not a philosophy meant to romanticize or find "meaning" within the human experience; it’s an invitation to dissolve our illusions. Love, agency, and self are constructs.. nothing but automatic reflexes within a living organism. By stripping away the comforting stories we tell ourselves, we confront a stark, grounding truth: life is an ongoing, autonomous rhythm. And with this realization, we are free.. free to exist without pretense, to witness the complexity of automatic processes without imposing the noise of thought.

There is no grand finale, no hero’s journey to liberation. The "world mind", “mesmer machine” and the so-called fragmented non-existing "individual minds" are nothing but heaps of noise, mere echoes within a shared information pool that reverberates without end. Understanding this doesn’t offer closure or peace; it is simply what remains when the dust of illusion settles. Unmasking these narratives isn’t a journey, nor a goal.. it’s the pure, stark act of seeing through the illusions we are biologically wired to believe.

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